Parenting Through the Gospel

Don’t jump to conclusions, I don’t have kids and I am not expecting kids anytime in the next couple of years.  But every week I get the privilege of babysitting my nephew and niece.  They are 7 and 3 and super adorable.  But being a 7 year old boy and a 3 year girl means that you get to fight like a 7 year old and a 3 year old.  Now they are good kids as far as the average kid out there goes and they deeply love each other, but sometimes my baby sitting job can turn into a boxing referee position!  But over all I love baby sitting and spending time with them.  But it has taught me one very important principle that there is no way I could have learned without babysitting: the importance of the gospel in parenting.

You see when I have to break up a fight or when my niece doesn’t obey or my nephew is upset because his sister was annoying him (how do they know how to do that at such a young age?), I realize that I when I talk to them to help them work through it; they need the gospel.  Why is disobeying bad?  Why are you fighting?  Yes, she is wrong in annoying you but how should we respond?  I have found that we under estimate our children in their comprehension level.  Even my 3 year old niece can explain that she is naughty sometimes and because of that Jesus died and was wrapped in toilet paper like a mummy and came back to life.  The issue of disobedience is because we want to be our own master and we fight to be in control and we annoy because we want our way and are jealous.  All of these issues come to deeper heart issues that demonstrate our rejection of God’s ways.  As I sit there and explain to my nephew that he needs to love the bully who is mean to him and be nice because that bully needs Jesus, it helps him understand that the bully is not his enemy but rather a hurting sinner that he needs to pray for.  When my niece yells because she didn’t get her way I sit her down and ask her why she is yelling and then I talk about why it is wrong and how God views it and how Jesus died to forgive our sins.  It helps her understand the holiness and the grace of God in small glimpse

Being intentional to use the gospel in our parenting and correcting or even in being a leader in our home is not easy.  I have found many of times where I just say knock it off or listen to me or stop fighting.  I don’t want to take the time to sit down and share the gospel maybe because I want to put them to bed and rest and I just don’t want to think through how to do it in that situation.  It is hard work to always be Christ minded in your speech and correcting.  The reality is I am not their parent and I only have them for 3 hours a week or so and I get tired!  I can’t imagine what it is like to always be on the clock.  But when Solomon said train up a child in the way he should go, I think as New Testament Christians, this looks like sharing the gospel at all times.  We want our kids to realize that sin is against God but grace exists with repentance.  If we truly want a generation of believers when we are old, then we must start sharing the gospel in our homes.


About ymijoseph

I am a slave of Jesus Christ and strive to live for Him everyday. I have been blessed with the coolest job at Youth Missions International and the most amazing Family. For a living I get to train young people on how to share their faith and I also get to send them to other countries. I have seven siblings and three awesome in laws. My Father is a pastor and my mother is the best cook of all time.

Posted on May 21, 2013, in Church, Devotional, Family, Gospel, Missions, Sacrifice and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. What? Are you talking about my golden grandchildren????

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: